What the Thee Days Look Like

"There is a structure here, a way through. You don’t have to figure it all out. Just stay present for the next step."

— Rick Martin

Many couples arrive wondering what will happen during the intensive.

That is a normal question.

While there is a structure to these three days, there is also flexibility. Every couple brings a different story, different experiences, and different needs. My role is to help guide the process while staying responsive to what shows up in the room.

You do not need to know every step before we begin.

You simply need to stay present for the next one.

Day One: Understanding How You Got Here

The first day is often focused on understanding.

How did you become the person you are today?

How did your partner become the person they are today?

How did the relationship become what it is today?

Together, we begin exploring the experiences, patterns, beliefs, strengths, hurts, and survival strategies that have shaped both of you and the relationship you share.

This creates the foundation for everything that follows.

Day Two: Learning Something New

Once we have a clearer understanding of what brought you here, we begin looking at new possibilities.

This may include:

• learning new relationship skills
• practicing new ways of communicating
• exploring emotional or somatic work
• understanding patterns more deeply
• developing new tools and perspectives

Some things may feel familiar.

Some may feel completely new.

The goal is not perfection.

The goal is learning, practicing, and discovering what helps create movement.

Day Three: Integration And Moving Forward

The third day is often about bringing everything together.

We continue working with anything that still needs attention while also focusing on how to carry what you have learned back into everyday life.

This may include:

• strengthening new skills
• creating practical next steps
• identifying ongoing practices
• discussing supports for continued growth

The goal is not to leave with all the answers.

The goal is to leave with greater understanding, stronger tools, and a clearer path forward.

The Process Is Flexible

While there is a general structure to the intensive, no two couples move through it in exactly the same way.

Sometimes a conversation needs more time.

Sometimes an unexpected insight changes the direction of the day.

Sometimes a skill needs more practice before moving on.

Sometimes a difficult moment creates an opportunity for meaningful change.

Rather than forcing the process to follow a rigid schedule, we work with what is present while continuing to move toward the larger goals of the intensive.

Think of it as following a compass rather than a map.

There is a direction.

There is a destination.

There is also room for discovery along the way.

Between Sessions

Throughout the three days, there may be moments where I invite you to reflect, journal, practice a skill, take a walk, have a conversation together, or spend time considering a question.

These are not tests.

They are opportunities to slow down, absorb what you are learning, and continue the work outside of our formal time together.

Every couple is different, so these exercises will be tailored to what is happening in the moment.

My Commitment To You

My role is to guide the process, help keep us moving forward, and provide the support, skills, tools, and perspectives that best serve the work in front of us.

Sometimes that means teaching.

Sometimes that means coaching.

Sometimes that means helping you slow down and look more closely at something important.

Sometimes that means challenging a belief, a pattern, or a way of seeing things that is no longer serving the relationship.

Throughout the process, I will hold both of you in the warmest regard while helping you stay focused on the work that matters most.

The Work Continues After Day Three

The intensive is not the finish line.

It is often the beginning of a new chapter.

Over the course of three days, you will gain new insights, learn new skills, and begin practicing new ways of relating to one another. Like any new skill, these changes become stronger through continued practice and use.

When you return home, life will still be there waiting for you.

Work schedules.

Children.

Responsibilities.

Old habits.

Old patterns.

All of the things that helped shape your relationship before the intensive will still exist afterward.

That is normal.

Part of the work is learning how to bring what you discover during these three days back into everyday life.

You may leave with exercises, practices, conversations, reflections, or other recommendations designed to support your continued growth as a couple.

For some couples, the intensive provides enough direction to continue moving forward on their own.

For others, ongoing coaching or follow-up sessions provide valuable support as they continue building new skills and creating lasting change.

You are not expected to do this alone.

Whether through follow-up sessions with Rick, support from a RLTMC Resident Coach, future workshops, or other resources within the RLT Marriage Counselling and Human Physics Group community, ongoing support is available if and when you need it.

The goal is not perfection.



The goal is continued growth, practice, and connection.

Trust The Process

You do not need to know exactly how everything will unfold.

You do not need to predict the outcome.

You do not need to have all the answers before we begin.

Trust the process.

Stay curious.

Take the next step.

We will take the rest together.