Before You Book

Common Questions About RLT Relationship Skills

How long are sessions?

Most sessions are two hours. This extended format allows us to move past surface-level conversation and get into the real patterns that are driving conflict.

In Relational Life Therapy, depth matters. A two-hour session gives us the time to slow things down, interrupt reactive patterns in real time, and build practical repair skills you can take home and use right away.

Shorter sessions often keep couples talking about the problem. These sessions are designed to actually change it.

How quickly will we see change?

Most couples begin to experience noticeable shifts within 4–6 sessions, especially when they actively apply the tools between sessions.

This work is focused and skills-based. You are not just talking about your relationship. You are learning how to repair, communicate, and respond differently in real time.

The couples who see the fastest results are the ones who show up, stay accountable, and apply what we work on in their day-to-day interactions. That is where the real change happens.

Does online marriage counselling really work?

Yes, it does. With structured sessions, secure video technology, and practical relational tools, online counselling can be just as effective as in-person work.

What matters most is not the room. It is your willingness to show up, stay present, and do the work together.

Many couples actually prefer online sessions because they feel more comfortable at home, can avoid travel, and are more consistent with attending and applying what they learn.

What happens in the free 30-minute intro session?

The intro session is a real conversation, not therapy and not a sales pitch.

We start with a short overview of how I work and what makes this approach different. Then I ask a few focused questions to understand what is happening in your relationship and what you are hoping for.

By the end of the call, you will have a clear sense of how the process works, what it will ask of you, and whether this feels like the right fit.

You then take time to talk it through together before deciding on next steps.

What if my partner is not fully on board?

That is more common than you think. Many couples start with one partner more ready than the other.

We can begin with whoever is willing to show up. Often, once the hesitant partner sees that the work is practical and not about blame, they become more open to participating.

The focus is not on forcing agreement. It is on creating enough safety and clarity that both people can begin to engage.

What if we are not sure we want to stay together?

You do not need to have that answer before starting.

Part of the work is helping you slow things down, reduce emotional reactivity, and get clear on what is actually possible in your relationship.

Some couples choose to repair and rebuild. Others choose to separate with more clarity and less damage.

Either way, the goal is to help you make decisions from a grounded place, not from crisis or confusion

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Do you only work with married couples?

No. I work with all committed couples, regardless of marital status.

Whether you are dating, living together, engaged, married, or somewhere in between, the same patterns tend to show up.

This work focuses on how you show up in the relationship, not the label attached to it.

What kinds of issues do you help with?

I work with couples dealing with recurring conflict, communication breakdown, loss of connection, trust issues, infidelity, resentment, and stepfamily or blended family dynamics.

At the core, most of these challenges come back to patterns, reactivity, and the lack of effective repair.

This work helps you understand those patterns and gives you the tools to change them.

Is this covered by insurance?

In most cases, couples counselling is not covered by insurance because it is not classified as medically necessary treatment.

This work is considered relationship support or self-development.

That said, many couples choose to invest in this because the cost of staying stuck is often much higher over time.

What makes this different from traditional therapy?

This is not open-ended talk therapy.

We focus on patterns, accountability, and real-time repair instead of just exploring feelings or past events.

You will be guided, challenged, and supported in learning new ways to respond to each other.

The goal is not just insight. The goal is change that shows up in your everyday life.

What happens between sessions?

This is where the real work happens.

You will be applying the tools, practicing new ways of communicating, and noticing where old patterns try to take over.

If things go off track, you are not left on your own. You can reach out for support between sessions to help you stay grounded and keep moving forward.

How do we know if this is the right fit?

That is exactly what the intro session is for.

You will get a clear sense of how I work, what the process looks like, and what will be asked of you.

From there, you decide together whether this feels like the right next step.

No pressure. Just clarity.