Come With Curiosity

"Bring a child's mind, not naive, but willing. Willing to try, to miss, and to begin again."

— Rick Martin

Many couples arrive believing they need to have the right answers before change can happen.

You don't.

The purpose of this page is to help you approach these three days with curiosity, openness, and a willingness to learn something new. You do not need to do this perfectly. You simply need to be willing enough to stay engaged in the process.

Child Mind

Throughout the intensive, we will often return to what I call a child's mind.

Not childish.

Not immature.

Curious.

A child's mind asks questions. It explores. It experiments. It learns through experience.

It is willing to try something new without needing a guarantee that it will work.

The more you can bring this mindset into the intensive, the more opportunities there will be for discovery, growth, and change.

Practice Over Perfection

Many of the skills and tools we explore may feel unfamiliar at first.

That is normal.

The goal is not to get everything right the first time.

The goal is to practice.

To learn.

To notice what works and what doesn't.

To make adjustments and continue moving forward.

Growth rarely comes from perfection. It often comes from being willing to keep going when things feel awkward, uncomfortable, or new.

Be Willing To Experiment

Think about how children learn.

They fall down.

They get back up.

They try again.

They learn by doing.

Relationships often work the same way.

Sometimes a new skill works immediately.

Sometimes it needs practice.

Sometimes it needs to be adjusted.

Sometimes it teaches us something valuable even when it doesn't work the way we expected.

The invitation is simple:

Stay curious long enough to discover what is possible.

Learning From What Doesn't Work

There is a story that Thomas Edison and his team tested thousands of different materials before finding one that worked well for the light bulb.

Whether the number was one, one hundred, or one thousand, is not really the point.

The lesson is that every attempt taught them something.

They learned what didn't work and used that information to move closer to what did.

Relationship work can be similar.

Not every conversation will go perfectly.

Not every skill will feel natural.

Not every moment will create a breakthrough.

That does not mean the process has failed.

It may simply mean there is something new to learn.

My Commitment To You

You do not need to know exactly what will happen during these three days.

You do not need to have a plan for every conversation.

My role is to guide the process, help keep us focused, teach new skills, offer new perspectives, and support both of you as the work unfolds.

I will hold both of you in the warmest regard while also helping you look honestly at what is helping your relationship and what may be getting in the way.

There is a structure to this work.

There is a path forward.

You do not have to walk it alone.

What Matters Most

If there is one thing I hope you take from this page, it is this:

You do not have to get it right.

You do not have to be perfect.

You do not have to arrive with all the answers.

Come willing.

Come curious.

Come ready to learn something new.



That is more than enough.