Stepfamily Therapy (Online)
You’re Not a Bad Partner—This Is Just a Hard Role
When one partner brings children into a new relationship, it creates a family dynamic that’s different from a traditional two-parent household. And different doesn’t mean broken but it does mean you’ll need different tools to make it work.
Stepfamily therapy helps couples navigate the real challenges of stepfamily life: parenting roles, loyalty binds, unclear boundaries, and the slow-building trust that takes time to earn. If you’re feeling more like a guest than a partner in your own home, you’re not alone. We can work with that.
When One of You Has Kids—and the Other Doesn’t
This isn’t a parenting manual. This is a survival guide for couples navigating one of the most emotionally charged relationship setups out there.
You love your partner. But you didn’t sign up for feeling like an outsider in your own home.
Or watching your partner shut down every time their child struggles to accept you.
Stepfamilies don’t fail because people don’t love each other. They fail because nobody ever taught them how to lead together - across loyalty binds, guilt, resentment, and silence.
Let’s change that.
What Makes This Work Different?
I don’t offer generic family therapy. I bring over 45 years of lived stepfamily experience, plus a deep foundation in Relational Life Therapy (RLT) to help you:
- Communicate clearly through power struggles
- Set boundaries that protect the couple and the kids
- Deal with resentment, role confusion, and guilt
- Create partnership around parenting, even if one of you isn’t “the parent”
- Stop blaming, start leading, and learn how to stay connected under pressure
You didn’t break it. But you can help rebuild it.
This Is Especially For You If…
- You feel unseen, unprioritized, or constantly “wrong” in the family dynamic
- Your partner’s guilt is interfering with your bond
- The children treat you with hostility or indifference
- You’re trying hard—but nothing seems to work
- You’re asking, “What’s the point of staying?”
There’s nothing wrong with you.
You just need tools, not shame.
What We Focus On
- Supporting the biological parent to lead with strength and sensitivity
- Helping the stepparent build trust instead of forcing closeness
- Strengthening the couple bond in the face of daily strain
- Navigating ex-partner dynamics without losing your peace
The Goal?
Not perfection. Not control. Not instant family.
The goal is to build a clear, connected relationship that leads with empathy and structure, so the family can grow around it.
And maybe - just maybe - you can become the kind of role models those kids don’t need therapy to recover from.
Whether you're searching for stepfamily therapy in Red Deer, online support for remarried couples, or a therapist who gets the real dynamics at play—I’m here to walk with you.
Online couples counselling in the privacy of your home.
Page last updated August 2, 2025.
Questions? Contact Rick Martin at
rick@humanphysics.ca
or call/text +1 403 483-2530
“Stepfamily work is slow work - but it pays off in real connection, not just coexisting.”